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Tag Archives: women’s ministry
Happy New Year: You can do this!
Encouragement and validation to start the new year. If you know someone who can benefit from being understood in the middle of a difficult marriage; please pass this on!
Toxic Tuesday: Emotional Roller Coaster
FYI: I’ve shortened the articles for quick readability. 2-3 minutes!
Toxic Tuesday: Traumatic bonding
Abuse comes in many forms and knows no boundaries. 1 in 4 women will experience domestic abuse during her lifetime and more than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes every year. *Men can also be the victim of abuse, but my ministry is mainly to women so I address myContinue reading “Toxic Tuesday: Traumatic bonding”
Abuse Resource List
Need resources for your church or organization regarding domestic abuse response? Are you aware there are many free resources on the internet? Free Christ-centered counseling from two of the best counselors who understand domestic abuse, toxic relationships, and boundaries. Free assessments to determine safety, and abuse. Quick guide for reviewing types of abuse. Websites andContinue reading “Abuse Resource List”
Southern Baptist – Affirm Women
“(W)e acknowledge that spousal abuse dishonors the marriage covenant and fundamentally blasphemes the relationship between Christ and the church.” The affirmation of “the dignity and worth of women” came as the nation’s largest Protestant denomination marked the 100th anniversary of women serving as messengers, even as it held fast to the view that women areContinue reading “Southern Baptist – Affirm Women”
My Video & transcript: For Such A Time As This Rally
I was invited and had the privilege of speaking at the For Such a Time as This Rally in Dallas, Texas. Our team had three goals to express to attendess of the Southern Baptist Convention: #1 Treat women as equals like Jesus did. #2 Establish a predator database. #3 Mandatory training of pastors and seminariansContinue reading “My Video & transcript: For Such A Time As This Rally”
For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 3
This is the third part in a series on what scripture has to say about a woman’s worth and role. Read Part 1 here…Part 2 here… We have the potential to defeat one of Satan’s longest standing lies. Nothing has brought more harm to women across the earth than men who think women have less valueContinue reading “For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 3”
For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 2
Here is the continuation of Part one where we looked at several scriptures written by Paul to see if they were literal or cultural, and saw that marital love is not controlling; it’s mutually submitting and looking out for the best interest of the other; it’s about serving. Here is what the Bible teaches aContinue reading “For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 2”
Advocate for abused women #ForSuchATimeAsThisRally
For far too long, women have suffered silently and ashamed in many church environments.
The Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) has a poor track record in its treatment of women.
Women have been fired from SBC seminaries simply because they are women.
Women have been told to stay in marriages in which they are being abused.
Women have been told that they must suffer rather than divorce.
Women have been told that they are at fault for being raped.
Women have been disciplined in Southern Baptist seminaries as a result of being raped.
Men who have spoken out against this treatment of women have been castigated.
WORLD magazine addresses destructive/abusive marriages
Hidden violence Spousal abuse is a widespread sin that many churches ignore at their—and their members’—peril Hidden violence and trauma comes in many forms within an abusive marriage. This is what most of my website has been dedicated to addressing for almost the last five years. I want to bring to light that whichContinue reading “WORLD magazine addresses destructive/abusive marriages”
Happy Hour: Celebrating 20+ years following Beth as she follows Christ
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! I want to encourage one of my closest friends; whom I’ve never met, Beth Moore. Continue reading “Happy Hour: Celebrating 20+ years following Beth as she follows Christ”
Fri-nally Happy Hour: Good or Best
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! When they brought the colt to Jesus and threw their cloaks over it, he sat on it.Continue reading “Fri-nally Happy Hour: Good or Best”
Escalation of abuse led to murder
Here is one more story of a woman who was living under verbal and emotional abuse. After 25 years she tried to leave; unsuccessfully. He followed her and killed her. Here is a fact you rarely hear, but it’s true. Abusers don’t get better. Abuse escalates with time. From the Tallahassee Democrat: Karl Etters,Continue reading “Escalation of abuse led to murder”
Lynn Messer case history
This is where you’ll find many of the past articles I’ve written about Lynn Messer. They are listed by title and dated from recent to earliest. You may also type ‘Lynn Messer’ into the search bar in the margin to find more articles. March 28, 2018, Lynn Messer family history Two and a half yearsContinue reading “Lynn Messer case history”
A Case Against Abused Women: Part 3
Here is the continuation on how an abuser treats his target in the privacy of their home. It has nothing to do with theology or gender roles! Rehabilitation for the abuser is rare. I’ve never heard of it.
Andy Savage Sexual Abuse Resignation: A necessary decision
In case you missed earlier headlines about Andy Savage here is a recap. Andy Savage was the teaching pastor at Highpoint Church in Memphis, TN. A student from his youth group twenty years ago came forward and publicly named him as having sexually assaulted her years ago. The assault took place when she attended theContinue reading “Andy Savage Sexual Abuse Resignation: A necessary decision”
A Case Against Abused Women: Part 1
It is my heart and passion to speak truth to hurting women, and to educate the church on domestic abuse because it is in our midst.
Listen…to her visible heart
This is a series of writings from women living in difficult, disappointing, or destructive marriages…or leaving destructive marriages/relationships. When women are physically abused the harm is often visible, but what about verbal and emotional abuse? The injury is internal…on the heart, soul, mind and strength. You may never guess her husband rages in a differentContinue reading “Listen…to her visible heart”
Happy Hour Fri-nally: War on Women?
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! “Seeing the question asked, Is Christianity bad for women? Depends on what you mean by Christianity. ChristiansContinue reading “Happy Hour Fri-nally: War on Women?”
Listen…to her objectified heart
My friend has been to college, worked in corporate America, considers herself to be a strong woman, and is outgoing and friendly; so to meet her you would never guess this is her home life, or her struggle.
Listen…to her weary heart
This is a series of writings from women living in difficult, disappointing, or destructive marriages…or leaving destructive marriages/relationships. When women are physically abused the harm is often visible, but what about verbal and emotional abuse? The injury is internal…on the heart, soul, mind and strength. You may never guess her husband rages in a differentContinue reading “Listen…to her weary heart”
Listen…her heart is crying
This begins a series of writings from women living in difficult, disappointing, or destructive marriages…or leaving destructive marriages/relationships. When women are physically abused the harm is often visible, but what about verbal and emotional abuse? The injury is internal…on the heart, soul, mind and strength. You may never guess her husband rages in a differentContinue reading “Listen…her heart is crying”
In the wake of infidelity (Helping the victim)
What a woman needs most from her friends in the middle of her shocking news…that her husband is being unfaithful is for a friend to listen. Affirm her, acknowledge her pain, pray for her…and other practical helps.
Naghmeh Panahi (Abedini’s) Divorce
I still believe in listening, affirming, and believing spouses who say they are in an abusive relationship as I wrote about in previous articles; including several in support of Naghmeh when her hidden abuse was made public.
Toxic Tuesday: Lysa TerKeurst’s Betrayal
The few times I’ve listened to Lysa in Bible studies or on pod casts over the last year I wondered if this was the difficult circumstance which she was living in of which she couldn’t speak.
Toxic Tuesday: Do You Have Biblical Permission to Leave a Toxic Spouse?
Today I’m sharing the blog post that has daily, for 3 1/2 years, remained the most read article I’ve written.
Difficult, Disappointing, or Destructive Marriage?
Here is my latest, mini, blog post. Are you in a difficult, disappointing, or destructive marriage? Hopefully you’re in a terrific marriage! For those who aren’t: Know the difference in under 5 minutes. Go!
You Can Do It!
Some days we’re just too tired to fight any more; or maybe we don’t have the slightest idea how to get out of our mess. Good news…remind God of His word then stand and watch Him fight for you.
Self-Medicating Due to Crazymakers: Free Rx
Here is your medicine! Wash your mind with it. It will change the way you think, the way you respond, and the way you feel. Do you want the prescription? I thought so!