My domain name changed to crisisresourceadvocate.com. Since I’ve volunteered as a crisis resource advocate for over a decade, I decided to have my website name reflect my passion. Next, I want to talk about Lynn Messer. I know she is dear to our hearts, and I still pray that questions about her death will be brought to light on this side of heaven.
Celebrity pastor Ravi Zacharias caught in long-term sexual deviance & abuse. An organization or individual that allows evil to thrive through sexual abuse cover-up is not Christ-like, & the ministry of Ravi Zacharias is invalidated by his refusal to repent & ask forgiveness. I supported & believed Lori Anne Thompson the last 4 years.
30 question checklist of less talked about signs of emotional abuse. Many churches teach that men are over women in every aspect of life which leads to abusive, angry and controlling men taking toxic liberties with power. Is this you or someone you know?
Encouragement and validation to start the new year. If you know someone who can benefit from being understood in the middle of a difficult marriage; please pass this on!
Are you aware that children can be ‘groomed’ or molested right in front of your eyes without you being wise to it? For people looking to offend; holiday gatherings provide a bountiful, unsuspecting selection. Learn some of the clues you can look for.
Number of people per minute who experience intimate partner violence in the U.S.: 24 Number of workplace violence incidents in the U.S. annually that are the result of current or past intimate partner assaults: 18,700 Number of women in the U.S. who report intimate partner violence: 1 in 4 Number of women who are killedContinue reading “The 2 sides of abusive men”
Shanann Watts’ husband, Chris Watts, confessed to killing Shanann and their two daughters Bella, 4, and Celeste, 3, as part of a plea deal to avoid the death sentence. He also pled guilty to the unlawful termination of Shanann’s pregnancy; the death of their unborn son. Watts will spend the rest of his life inContinue reading “Shanann Watts domestic violence murder update”
Lynn Messer disappeared July 8, 2014. We now know that Lynn has been deceased the entire time and I have been told by law enforcement multiple times through the years that Kerry Messer, her husband, has not been cleared in the investigation surrounding Lynn’s death. Kerry is a Missouri state lobbyist who represents family, homeschooling,Continue reading “Lynn Messer Update November Election”
Life is hard, and life married to an angry, controlling spouse seems impossible. Without realizing it you withhold hope as an area in which you allow God access. Hopelessness is an easy place to arrive when talking to counselors, doctors, domestic violence, and advocates for women in abusive marriages, but mainly after praying for yearsContinue reading “Hope lost in a difficult marriage?”
FYI: I’ve shortened the articles for quick readability. 2-3 minutes!
Read Part 1 here… Part 2 here… Part 3 here… Part 4 here… You, Lord, hear the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry, defending the fatherless and the oppressed, so that mere earthly mortals will never again strike terror. Psalm 10:17-18 (NIV) Paul’s words to husbands, “love yourContinue reading “For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 5”
This is the third part in a series on what scripture has to say about a woman’s worth and role. Read Part 1 here…Part 2 here… We have the potential to defeat one of Satan’s longest standing lies. Nothing has brought more harm to women across the earth than men who think women have less valueContinue reading “For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 3”
Here is the continuation of Part one where we looked at several scriptures written by Paul to see if they were literal or cultural, and saw that marital love is not controlling; it’s mutually submitting and looking out for the best interest of the other; it’s about serving. Here is what the Bible teaches aContinue reading “For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 2”
This series focuses on a woman’s worth, and a woman’s role in marriage. The Bible is proof positive that God has an active role for women in society, the church, and in marriage. Abusers join many Christians in the belief that a woman is scripturally mandated to obey and submit to her husband, and churchContinue reading “For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 1”
For far too long, women have suffered silently and ashamed in many church environments.
The Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) has a poor track record in its treatment of women.
Women have been fired from SBC seminaries simply because they are women.
Women have been told to stay in marriages in which they are being abused.
Women have been told that they must suffer rather than divorce.
Women have been told that they are at fault for being raped.
Women have been disciplined in Southern Baptist seminaries as a result of being raped.
Men who have spoken out against this treatment of women have been castigated.
Hidden violence Spousal abuse is a widespread sin that many churches ignore at their—and their members’—peril Hidden violence and trauma comes in many forms within an abusive marriage. This is what most of my website has been dedicated to addressing for almost the last five years. I want to bring to light that whichContinue reading “WORLD magazine addresses destructive/abusive marriages”
ABOVE: I posted this flashback from high school on my friend Michele’s Facebook page. Michele and I were best friends who lived in Eagle Grove, Iowa, during middle school. I moved to Oklahoma at the beginning of high school and Michele would visit me in Stillwater during the summers and attend my church’s youthContinue reading “Listen to her frantic heart: Their abuser is trying to move their child away to an undisclosed location”
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! When we rely upon organization, we get what organization can do; when we rely upon education, weContinue reading “Happy Hour: What do you get?”
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! Here is the plan I referenced in last week’s Happy Hour post. It’s the summation of versesContinue reading “Happy Hour: Cor-alatian (Life Plan)”
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! Do you ever feel overwhelmed or defeated? Do you feel like you have too many people, or circumstances,Continue reading “Happy Hour: Thrive despite difficult circumstances or relationships?”
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! When they brought the colt to Jesus and threw their cloaks over it, he sat on it.Continue reading “Fri-nally Happy Hour: Good or Best”
Here is one more story of a woman who was living under verbal and emotional abuse. After 25 years she tried to leave; unsuccessfully. He followed her and killed her. Here is a fact you rarely hear, but it’s true. Abusers don’t get better. Abuse escalates with time. From the Tallahassee Democrat: Karl Etters,Continue reading “Escalation of abuse led to murder”
This is where you’ll find many of the past articles I’ve written about Lynn Messer. They are listed by title and dated from recent to earliest. You may also type ‘Lynn Messer’ into the search bar in the margin to find more articles. March 28, 2018, Lynn Messer family history Two and a half yearsContinue reading “Lynn Messer case history”
Here is the continuation on how an abuser treats his target in the privacy of their home. It has nothing to do with theology or gender roles! Rehabilitation for the abuser is rare. I’ve never heard of it.
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! You know those bad days, bad moments, or bad thoughts you sometimes have? I have them too. DoContinue reading “Fri-nally Happy Hour: Power Shots”
Read part 1 here… I know this makes many people uncomfortable. I know there are those who believe I am shaming the church and bringing harm to the name of Jesus. I’m confident that Jesus wants us to shine light in the dark places and bring truth and critical thinking to the table. MoreContinue reading “A Case Against Abused Women: Part 2”
In case you missed earlier headlines about Andy Savage here is a recap. Andy Savage was the teaching pastor at Highpoint Church in Memphis, TN. A student from his youth group twenty years ago came forward and publicly named him as having sexually assaulted her years ago. The assault took place when she attended theContinue reading “Andy Savage Sexual Abuse Resignation: A necessary decision”
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! Let’s turn an unhappy truth into a positive truth! That person who has rejected you …Continue reading “Fri-nally Happy Hour: Victory over life’s storms”
This is a series of writings from women living in difficult, disappointing, or destructive marriages…or leaving destructive marriages/relationships. When women are physically abused the harm is often visible, but what about verbal and emotional abuse? The injury is internal…on the heart, soul, mind and strength. You may never guess her husband rages in a differentContinue reading “Listen…to her visible heart”
HAPPY HOUR: Fridays AT 5:00 P.M.—Kick back after a hard week’s work and enjoy the intoxicating goodness of true love and wisdom without putting a dent in your wallet. It’s like free fast food for your soul. ~Enjoy! “Seeing the question asked, Is Christianity bad for women? Depends on what you mean by Christianity. ChristiansContinue reading “Happy Hour Fri-nally: War on Women?”