I want to validate people in relationships who are noticing red flags and warning signs of an abuser or a dysfunctional friend, family member, neighbor, or coworker. I’ve walked ahead of you on similar roads of hidden abuse, outrageously loud abuse, assault, boundarylessness, and gaslighting. I’ve learned from experience. I left a dangerous marriage to my first husband, a pastor now in prison for a sex crime against a three-year-old; a child who wasn’t his only victim. I barely survived the failures (that’s saying it nicely) of family court while trying to keep my daughter safe. I almost lost my oldest son, when he was seven years old, to a severe traumatic brain injury; he’s now in college. I’m a cancer survivor, and I live with chronic illnesses. I advocate for those living in or leaving destructive, toxic relationships.
When we experience a relational loss, disappointment, or death, we can fall into a pit of despair wondering what’s next. A life of difficulty can leave us feeling lost to the previous version of ourselves. Many of us feel abandoned to the dead of winter, yet the truth remains…spring is coming.
Don’t suffer alone in silence. There is hope! That’s why I offer my services as a Crisis Resource Advocate. I work with women living in or leaving destructive relationships by providing direction, a listening ear, personal prayer for your specific needs, and access by phone calls, text messages, and emails. Receive kindness, validation, and understanding. Learn what has worked for others while fighting for yourself and your children. It’s hard work, but it’s doable because Jesus is with us and He has not abandoned or forgotten us. He is relevant for every season and question in life.
As a Crisis Resource Advocate, I will help empower you to engage in the battle for the present and the future. I’ve been where you are and I’ve helped other survivors find their way to safety, joy, peace, purpose, and health.
I’m known for being authentic in joy and transparent in pain. I will see you, hear you, and understand the space in which you are living. You aren’t alone. Everyone I’ve helped has experienced domestic abuse, secondary abuse by the family courts, childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault, and/or abuse in the Christian environment. I’ll connect you with a community of survivors.
Listening to survivors is my specialty. Plus, if you are feeling lost and don’t know what to do next, I will point you toward crisis resources for the topics of counseling, domestic violence, family court, and toxic relationships. I will end the session by praying for you because prayer is the most powerful tool we possess. The conversation will not be a group call or a webinar but a private one-on-one telephone conversation. The cost is $50 for a one hour consultation, and includes placing you on a prioritized list for future calls, text messaging, and emails.
Stop doubting yourself. Collect your thoughts. Prioritize safety issues. Be prepared for the abuser’s next psychological attack against you. For those in the family court system, learn hacks for dealing with your attorney, the defendant’s lawyer, the judge, and the abuser. Take your power back from the abuser. You are strong! You can find freedom, safety, and healthy relationships.
*My coaching is for abuse survivors in crisis but this is NOT a substitute for therapy or legal representation.
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I’ve been where you are. I’ve greatly suffered and strived to know what I know. I continue to educate myself on abuse topics because I care for the abused and believe God wants us to be safe and delivered to emotional and spiritual health. I’ve ministered to women, and a few men, for over a decade. I continue to receive calls, emails, and text messages daily from people needing help or help for a friend or loved one. So I decided to use my knowledge and turn my passion for survivors of abuse into a job as a crisis resource advocate. I will also maintain this website and post on Facebook under Carolyn Deevers.