Yes to You Means No to My Family

Toxic Tuesday biochem hazard

Do you ever feel like you are becoming your own toxic frazzled mess due to time restraints, over commitment to good people, places and projects, or being off-balance from interacting with difficult people?

I am not a person who likes to say, “No” when asked to do something and most of the time I know I can do, organize or delegate what is asked of me. If I know I don’t have the ability it is easy to say, “No, I am not able to help with that request.”

The last few years I have worked on protecting my time, my rest, my family and my sanity.

I am learning to say, “I’ll think about it”.

Sometimes I respond, “I’ll pray about it and get back to you.”

When appropriate I’ll kindly reply, “I’ll think about it and pray about it.”

But most often I’m finding myself answering, “If I say yes to you, or to this request, I will be saying no to my family.”

This isn’t an excuse to say no to everything or to find an easy way out; it is a necessary tool for running my household, loving and serving my family, and preserving my physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.

I can’t keep saying no to my family. When I become overly stressed, overly tired, or overly committed I am not caring for my family and in essence I am saying, “No,” to their needs.


Proverbs 31:28-29 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”

1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, especially for those of his own house, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.


I know my life is off-balance when I cannot find any fruit in my actions, thoughts or day.


Galatians 5:22-23  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.



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