They hate you because they hate Jesus in you.
“If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first.” John 15:18 (NIV)
They cannot tolerate your calmness in the storm, your resolve to listen only to your Savior in trust and obedience, and your ability to not allow their arrows to penetrate your heart, soul, mind and strength. Little does the abusive person know; Jesus is deflecting the arrows from ever reaching you as your gaze it set on Him.
Mindset of abusive people:
