My domain name changed to crisisresourceadvocate.com. Since I’ve volunteered as a crisis resource advocate for over a decade, I decided to have my website name reflect my passion. Next, I want to talk about Lynn Messer. I know she is dear to our hearts, and I still pray that questions about her death will be brought to light on this side of heaven.
Author Archives: Carolyn Deevers
Gabby Petito in Relation to Social Justice
I wish Gabby had understood he was the problem, not her. I wish some Christians understood ministry to victims is not a social justice cause; it’s biblical. Read why…
Church Teachings and the Massage Spa Shootings
Join the discussion. Did church teachings on sexuality contribute, and are we following the example of Jesus in ministry.
Vindication for Sexual Abuse Victims of Ravi Zacharias
Celebrity pastor Ravi Zacharias caught in long-term sexual deviance & abuse. An organization or individual that allows evil to thrive through sexual abuse cover-up is not Christ-like, & the ministry of Ravi Zacharias is invalidated by his refusal to repent & ask forgiveness. I supported & believed Lori Anne Thompson the last 4 years.
New Hospitality Bar
I’ve had a few people contact me over the last year asking for this post, followed by another reminder today. I can see it on my administrative account, but it has a broken link to the public post, so here it is again. If you make one for your home, send me a pic!
Sex Abuse Case Puts Baptist College Trustee and MBC in Spotlight
Toxic Tuesday: We are aware that seminary doesn’t teach how to handle abuse allegations or how to minister to victims. So why is it that most churches follow the same protocol when it comes to mishandling abuse allegations or denying involvement in cover-ups? #RememberTheMillstone
Lynn Messer: Praying for Justice
I’m still believing justice is on the way. I believe silence and slow movement in the case is for a positive reason. The integrity of the case is more important than public perception or providing answers to the family. These types of cases can take years to build a solid case. Don’t mistake it for inaction or indifference. Time is now on Lynn’s side. I’m still praying for Lynn’s reversal of destiny. Read more in this rewrite of ‘Reversal of Destiny’.
Domestic Violence and Murder
When men murder women does the state care? Do jury members care? Do guilty verdicts back up the answers. These are all Missouri cases, including the unsolved cases of Amanda Jones and Lynn Messer.
Family Court Protest 10/18/2019
The court expects children to “have frequent, continuing, and meaningful relationship with the other parent.”
Book Release: What Is a Girl Worth?
I was given an advance copy of both of Rachael Denhollander’s books to read in exchange for my honest opinion about the books. These reviews are in my words. The power of one voice. Rachael Denhollander is an attorney, advocate, and educator who became known internationally as the first woman to file a police reportContinue reading “Book Release: What Is a Girl Worth?”
Family Court and the Revictimization of Abuse Survivors
Today I’m talking about: Inadequacies of family court for domestic abuse survivors and children. What all abusers have in common. Ways family court is weaponized against victims. What can be done about these problems.
Survivor of SGM on Josh Harris leaving his wife and his faith
The end of his book, divorce, no longer a Christian,, and a sexual abuse cover-up scandal. What now? Prayer! Prayer for so many people in several directions. Here is a good commentary on the situation.
Lynn Messer case timeline |GoFundMe for Abram’s family
Here is the entire timeline of which I read a part of at the candlelight prayer vigil. I’ve also included the link to the GoFundMe page for Abram, Elizabeth and thier children.
Lynn Messer prayer vigil update: Important
Please read this if you plan on attending the candlelight prayer vigil for Lynn Messer. Thank you.
Lynn Messer’s Death Certificate: What it does and doesn’t say
Candlelight prayer vigil details; plus, what the death certificate says and doesn’t say leaves legal room to easily come back and make changes to the certificate at a later date.
Lynn Messer prayer vigil signs
Get your candlelight prayer vigil signs here…
We look forward to seeing you Monday night.
Spring Thomas (Messer) 20 Talking Points
Here is a list and timeline of Spring Thomas (Messer’s) life as related to the disappearance of Lynn Messer.
12 problems with Kerry Messer’s Version of Lynn’s Case
Read about them here as I gear up for Lynn’s prayer vigil. #JusticeForLynn
Lynn Messer Public Prayer Vigil, July 8, 2019
Please make plans to attend a prayer vigil for Lynn Messer as we ask God for answers, truth, and #JusticeForLynn. Please share on social media, church prayer-chains, and with friends. Thank you.
Child Sexual Abuse Prevention: Safety Questions for Parents to Ask Kids
Here are some questions for conversation that you can use with your kids to make sure school, church, extra-curricular activities, and outings with friends and family are safe.
Pedophile or Molester?
Here are the differences between pedophiles and molesters. The one thing they have in common: they don’t change.
Childhood Sexual Abuse: Symptoms Part 3
Know emotional and behavioral signs to look for. This could be for your child or a friend’s child. Sometimes a friend, family member, or someone in your social network will notice changes too. Knowledge = Protective Power
Protecting Children from Predators: Childhood Sexual Abuse Part 2
Let’s compare myth to facts and learn signs that an adult may be targeting a child for sexual reasons. Also learn how to respond to a child’s disclosure of abuse.
How Sexual Predators Choose Child Victims: Part 1
Knowledge is power. Keep your children and grandbabies safe. I go by this simple rule: when in a crowd or gathering of any sort; I assume there is a predator in our midst and protectively act accordingly.
Lynn Messer’s note handwriting comparison
I’ve received several pieces of handwriting belonging to Lynn Messer and to (allegedly) Kerry Messer. Take a look at the differences. Is this perhaps the reason Kerry Messer didn’t want family to see the entire note? Would family have known from day one that Lynn didn’t write all of the note?
Abusers, Denial, and 10 Tips From Their Playbook
In light of the R. Kelly headlines: Read the different ways abusers react when confronted and study their team playbook. Should you believe them? Is letting them off the hook showing grace…after all, aren’t grace and forgiveness biblical concepts?
Abuse of Faith part 3: 10 reasons abusers keep preying
Abuse of Faith Part 3: How do so many get buy with it? Grandiose acting & the help of enablers. Or…people who want to pretend it isn’t true so they refuse to listen or read the facts. If this is you…you’re creating the perfect scenario for your child, loved one or church family to be victimized. READ an abuser’s letter to a missionary and see how it happens.
Abuse of Faith: Part 2
How SBC attendees treated rally speakers, how my former husband found ministry after ministry allowing him access to more prey, why it is wise to wait and see how the SBC responds, & Part 2 of Abuse of Faith: Offend, then repeat by the Houston Chronicle.
Abuse of Faith: The SBC
Please don’t look away; Jesus isn’t. This case is not overstated, if anything the number of victims is under estimated. This isn’t just an SBC problem. In the end…most abusers believe they are the victims of the children. Twisted thinking for sure!
Emotional abuse checklist
30 question checklist of less talked about signs of emotional abuse. Many churches teach that men are over women in every aspect of life which leads to abusive, angry and controlling men taking toxic liberties with power. Is this you or someone you know?